How to Ask for Help

Why is seeking help difficult? If you had a broken leg, you would ask for help.  But, asking for help for our mental health or suicidal thoughts can feel different. Many people don't receive treatment and suffer when they do not have to.  So what can you do?

First, notice any signs that you are struggling to avoid a future crisis. Does something feel off? Or have you been more withdrawn, isolating, or angry? Pay attention to the signs your body and mind are telling you. 

Determine what help you need.  There are resources available to support you to get the help you need. You can also reach out  to a trusted friend, family member, pastor, or other health provider. It's hard to ask for help, but it is worth it!

Ask openly. Remember: Most people want to help. Useful phrases include:

  • "When you get a chance can you contact me? I feel really alone and suicidal, and could use some support."
  • "I don’t want to die, but I don't know how to live. Talking with you may help me feel safe. Are you free to talk?"
  • "This is really hard for me to say but I’m having painful thoughts and it might help to talk. Are you free?"

Reach out if you are in distress. Your life is always worth a phone call and every option is preferable to suicide. Call, text, chat: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or reach out to the BHRS Access Line 1-888-818-1115.

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