How to Ask for Help

Your life is always worth a phone call and every option is preferable to suicide. Call 988. Free and 24/7, confidential counseling.

Why is seeking help difficult? After all, if we had a broken leg, we would not hesitate to ask for help. But, asking for help for our mental health or suicidal thoughts can feel different. Unlike most physical conditions, matters of the mind are often stigmatized, either by our own beliefs or from society. As a result, many people don't receive treatment and suffer when they do not have to.  So what can you do?

First, notice any signs that you are struggling to avoid a future crisis. Does something feel off? Or have you been more withdrawn, isolating, or angry? How does it make you feel, emotionally or physically? Pay attention to the signs your body and mind are telling you. 

Determine what help you need. Are you looking for a new medication? Seeking a counselor? Explore some of the resources on this site. There are resources available to support you to get the help you need. You can also reach out  to a trusted friend, family member, pastor, or other health provider. It's hard to ask for help, but it is worth it!

Ask openly. If you are having a hard time asking for help, try to remember that most people want to help!  Useful phrases include:

• "When you get a chance can you contact me? I feel really alone and suicidal, and could use some support."
• "I don’t want to die, but I don't know how to live. Talking with you may help me feel safe. Are you free to talk?"
• "This is really hard for me to say but I’m having painful thoughts and it might help to talk. Are you free?"

Reach out if you are in distress. Contact the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988 or the BHRS Access Line 1-888-818-1115 if you are in distress. 

You are not alone, though sometimes you may feel that way. If you have any questions about supportive resources, please contact the BHRS Prevention and Outreach Team.